It is easier for abuse apologists to rip apart vulnerable people limb by limp limb than it is to strengthen them. Strengthening requires a lowering down into human suffering that the vast majority of us wish to avoid at all costs; not only in others — but also ourselves.
It has taken me a lifetime to grapple with the malformation of the fragile, and the employ of every socially accepted psychological coping mechanism to flee from the fragments. I have done the hard work to collect them. The process has been excruciating — the goal worthy.
Like a multitude of other victims, I have been ripped limb by limp limb by abuse apologists in social media spaces. I wonder if they took the time to know me (or their own humanity) would they kill the vulnerability in us both. I expect they would. To be human is to be vulnerable. We cannot accept the inherent vulnerability that comes with our own humanity.
We live blindly under a blanket of meticulous meritocracy and brutality blame those who cannot do likewise. The tender places are where the truest parts of us live, and move, and have our being.
Abuse apologists who vilify victims could care less what occurred to vulnerable victims — they care only for the venerable offender. They will not even evaluate the available evidence. They claim, without cause, that the evidence is false. Yet others, plainly state that irrespective of compelling evidence, they will continue to venerate the life of the offender — whilst simultaneously vilifying the vulnerable.
“They have chosen cunning instead of belief. Their prison is only in their minds, yet they are in that prison; and so afraid of being taken in that they cannot be taken out.” – Aslan
They are abuse apologists who owe abuse victims an apology, that they will never see.