Dear Weary Ones,
Years ago I made the deliberate choice (a treaty with myself of sorts) to do the following:
1. Speak only good about myself, sure work on what I see as problem areas, but I would not constantly berate/judge myself ever again.
2. I would never obsess over my weight. I would simply take care of myself as best as I could given my time, my energy, and my capacity.
3. I would stop any and all comparison to other people. There will always be people who are smarter, slimmer, wiser, and more capable. I would be me, not someone else.
4. I would stop criticizing anyone else. Permanently. I would make a point of staying the good, and if nothing good could be said, nothing would be said.
5. I would know that I have done my best with what I had, with what I knew, and own my failures as a mistake, not a character catastrophe.
6. I would choose to live in my body under the following terms and conditions:
- “I am allowed to learn and make mistakes” “My weight is an issue of health, not an obsession to be perfect and acceptable.”
- “I am intelligent, I can learn, it is a matter of how much work I have to do to understand and apply what I am learning.” “I am capable.” “I am good at XY and Z. I stink at AB and C. I am ok with that. I am going to live from my strengths.”
- “I can let other people be smart, successful, beautiful and capable and this does not diminish me one atom. I have my own brilliance, as do they.”
I wrote all of this to one of my daughters the other day. I suggested that she:
“Take a screenshot.
Print it out.
Make it yours.
These are truths.